worries.

i was listening to talk radio the other day, which is either one of the best inventions, or the worst. there's all of this talk going on about tiger woods, and jesse james. pretty much, the story is that these married men, decided to have numerous affairs outside of their marriages. the radio host's theory was that men, are better at compartmentalizing things, than women are. so they can have their married life, where they are head over heals in love with their wife. and also, have these affairs that are -in their mind- not "affairs" but instead, encounters that are completely separate. sort of like how men are better at solving problems because they can look on things rationally, instead of putting their emotions into it, the way that women do. my first immediate reaction, was, we better not let men get a hold of this information, because then that will be the excuse for everything. oh honey, it doesn't effect my relationship with you at all, because i love you, that other thing wasn't in any way connected. it's just how i compartmentalize things sweetie. you're the one for me. (the ONE for me)

is this what our men have come to? that it's completely impossible to have a relationship without infidelity? false. because it's happened. relationships have survived without extramarital businesses. so apparently it's possible. just not for the man of today? no?

this absolutely terrifies me. like this is a warning of my future. i'm going to wake up 30 years from now, finding out that my husband has been having affairs, and i'm going to confront him. and he's going to laugh and say, but babe, it's just separate. and walk away while i'm having a mental break down.

it's not okay to give ourselves excuses to behave badly. it's not okay to say, well, i can sleep with her, because it doesn't mean anything. it's not okay to make someone trust you, and then abuse it. and what i'm worried about, is that for the past couple thousand years, all we've been doing, is finding the loopholes, and getting away with murder.